It’s time. You’ve signed up for a gym membership. Maybe you’ve been a member at gyms in the past, but you have not stuck with it. But now you want to really commit yourself. Maybe it’s because summer is here, maybe it’s because you are tired of being average, or maybe you have a health condition that you want to improve through exercise. Whatever your reason, remember it, because you are going to need it.


How is it that so many people make such great progress in the gym, and then end up falling off? How come people take ‘breaks’ away from the gym for months, and sometimes years? Well, there can be a number of reasons, but the real reason is the reason. Your REASON for ANYTHING in life will be what sustains you throughout your journey. If you do not have a deep reason for doing something, you will never succeed at whatever it is. We all have motives for the things we do, whether we are conscious of them or not. The key word is conscious, because it is absolutely necessary to be conscious of our reason.


A favorite analogy of mine which I use with my clients is that of a skyscraper. When a skyscraper is built, it is first started with the formation of a foundation. That foundation is vital for the skyscraper to remain standing. Our reason, our ‘why’, for our mission is what makes up our foundation. You want to lose weight? WHY? Don’t settle there, keep asking yourself WHY after you answer each question in order to get to the very core of your motive. A response such as, “I want to look better” is nowhere NEAR the core, it is only scratching the surface, and so we must keep digging and digging. I once heard a man say, “Your ‘why’ should make you cry”. Your REASON should be so POWERFUL that it MOVES YOU. Emotion creates motion. Get angry, throw a fit, and discover your reason for wanting to change. Once we have our deepest, most emotional reason, we have the foundation we need. Without the foundation, a skyscraper will come crashing down eventually. It can be built up 10, 20, maybe 30 floors, but eventually it will fall right down and turn to dust. The same thing goes for you and your goals.


It is not optional, it is NECESSARY for you to have a reason for everything that you do. Whether it is in the gym, the workplace, or anywhere else, you must be conscious of where you are and WHY you are there. Otherwise, you are like a deer in headlights, blinded and lost, not knowing which direction to turn.


Practical Steps:

1) Establish WHAT it is you want to do. Be specific and timely. (i.e. lose 20 lbs in 3 months; gain 10lbs of muscle by the end of the year, etc.)

2) Figure out WHY you want to achieve this. (i.e. I want to inspire my son to lose weight by showing him that it’s possible, I’ve been called fat my entire life and I’m ready to shock the world, I want to pack on strength and size in an effort to be the best player on my football team, etc.)

3) Decide HOW you will reach these goals. One of the best ways is to hire a coach who can do this for you. (i.e. commit to a muscle-building routine and agree to a diet plan, cut out your nightly snack and replace it with a nightly run to help you lose more weight, etc.)

4) Believe that you CAN do it. It is IMPERATIVE that you are able to visualize the person you wish to become. If you cannot see it, you cannot be it. The ability to see what is unseen is an ability which will allow you to achieve success in every walk of life.

5) Write down your goals where you can see them every day. Use your mirror. Repeat them to yourself, and close your eyes and envision the end result. Remember, “Those who say they can and those who say they can’t are usually both right.” – Confucius

6) Start a diary. Record your thoughts in it every day. Track your foods and your workouts. Document every moment of your life. Notice how you will begin to connect your mind with your body, and soon your soul as well.

7) Find support from your friends and family. Having a workout partner with the same goals is very helpful towards making the process more enjoyable and also hold you accountable. Be very careful in regards to who you surround yourself with. Those who do not support you will drag you down, like an anchor attached to a paddle boat.

8) For every moment where you feel like giving up, recall on the reason and the emotion that got you started in the first place.


Anything is possible, as long as you believe it.



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by Brandon Fertig, CPT

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