Study as many people as you can. You will discover that people we perceive as “lucky”, “fortunate”, or “naturally gifted” also have a different subconscious story playing in the background that dictates a set of standards.
They are asking different questions. I don’t believe in luck. I believe we started at the same place. I believe some people are more advanced and learned this game of life better than others by wanting to learn and progress.
I studied so many people to understand the patterns of learning. It goes down in 4 stages:
1) Unconscious Incompetence – We don’t know we have a flaw
2) Conscious Incompetence – We know we are bad at it
3) Conscious Competence – We have to think about it while we do it
4) Unconscious Competence – It’s on autopilot
You are talented in certain areas. I know you are. I promise you that you are asking a different set of questions in that thing you are talented in as opposed to the things you aren’t that good at.
You are telling yourself a story.
It will boil down to this:
When you are not good at something – you are asking some questions that will funnel into the concept of “What will go wrong?” – “What if they don’t like me?” or “What if I’m not good enough?”
When you are good at something – you are asking some questions that will funnel into the opportunity of “What will go right?” – You are subtly asking something along the lines of “How can I do this?” or “What can I gain out of doing this?”
Switch the questions you are asking yourself consciously and then it will become one chunk of information. Remember the first time you drove a car? Panic. You have to hit the gas, the brake, look at the side view mirrors, turn on the blinkers, look at the rear view mirror, and use stick. You definitely weren’t texting while doing that. Now it’s just called driving.
Work to try to get everything you want to do as a habit.